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6 Secrets to Finding and Keeping a Boo

15 Aug

Do you want a boo in your life? Or have you been meeting people but it just doesn’t seem to stick? We’ve got some great tips for you to help you find a meet a someone to start a relationship with. You might want to get your notepad out for these:

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#1 Know that there are no secrets. Sorry guys – what I do have to offer however are some great tips that will help you in navigating, taking your time and easing into this whole relationship thing. As a soon-to-be married woman, I am a little removed from the dating scene, but I do know a few tricks of the trade from when/how I met my boo. Most of which were not so successful – but for the most part, I must have done something right ūüôā

#2¬†Avoid going into Hunting Spree Mode. Finding and going into “Gotta get me a man/woman NOW” mode are two totally different things. It’s important to keep your eyes open, but give them a rest too when you want to find a mate. Word to the wise: chill boo.

#3 Pray. Oh yes! Before I met my future hubby, I prayed. I was fed up with not connecting with guys that I met or guys that didn’t deserve me. No matter your gender, you can pray that you get a man/woman that is for you.¬†These were a few onf my prayers:

  • That God first make me whole – because it starts there – with YOU.
  • That God bring me what HE knows is best for me.
  • That I am patient enough to let him come to me. …….So tonight say your special prayer – that is unique to you and your situation. The rest will work itself out.

#4 Know your worth. Like granny would say “Never take any wodden nickles.” She wasn’t saying that to make you tout your nose up and look down on people. She said it for you to know that you are worth more than the basic – well in this case, the artificial. Don’t expect the person you end up dating and possibly sharing your life with to be perfect, cause none of us are. But do realize that you are worthy of love, respect and realness. Once you do this, you won’t end up wasting your time on anything less.

#5¬†Change the way you think & Let the past go.¬†“All men are dogs.” “Man, women only want a man with money.” We’ve all heard these phrases or have said them before. Despite what you’ve experienced, what you’ve heard your friends say, or what you think is true, in order to find someone to share your love with, you’ve got to block out negative stereotypes. This only closes us off to what could potentially be a person to start something with. And two, no one wants a Sour¬†Susie or a Broken Brandon that they have to constantly prove themselves to. To keep your boo – lighten up or chances are, they will go on to the next.

Everybody’s got a past. The past does not equal the future unless you live there. – Tony Robbins.

#6 Enjoy your own company. You can’t expect others to want to be around you or deem you approachable if you don’t enjoy yourself. While living the single life – get to know you. Learn to love being around yourself. So, bask in the ambience of who you are¬†by taking yourself to the movies (this is not a sign of loneliness), or enjoying a glass of wine, a moment of silence….whatever it takes. Just be happy.¬†Know when to sit still and just LOVE your life. It’s the boomerang effect.¬†The love¬†you give will come right back to you.

Stay tuned……we will have more relationship advice to come.

Top 10 Weirdest Things about being a Bride-to-Be

8 Aug[1]Not that weird means bad. These things to me are just weird…

#10 –¬†Not having all the answers.¬†¬†That moment when someone asks you “So what’s your date?” And you have no clue – been there! Or how about that time when someone asks you your budget? First off – that’s nosey (unless they are contributing – in which case, tell it all!) And secondly, sometimes you are just not there yet. In any event you might not have all the answers and that is okay. Just say it. Change the subject and move on.

#9 – Learning how to play your cards.¬† If you’ve ever played spades, you know you can’t show all your cards. That means hold your expressions to yourself and reveal nothing. Simple right? NO……Not when you live in the digital age. Sometimes there are things I want to shout from the rooftop – but I withhold. It’s important to leave something to the imagination and for wedding day!

#8 – Expecting a bunch of RSVPs¬†and getting nada.¬†Will I ruffle some feathers? I don’t know. It’s my¬†blog – so here we goooooooooo. If you just got engaged, are planning your wedding and haven’t sent out invites yet, or thinking about it – you will quickly learn that people are not the best communicators. It’s just true! More than likely you will get about 35% (if that) of RSVPs back in the mail. Now, via phone/text/facebook message, maybe more-so.¬†For that reason, I say – don’t go wasting your bridal budget dollars on extra postage for response cards. It’s a waste. I don’t mind a polite ‘I regret,” just tell me something – sheez….

#7 – Having to cut Pinterest down to a minimum.¬† A friend of mine told me that I should pry myself away from my Pinterest boards during planning. Did I listen? Nope.¬†I affectionately labeled¬†my¬†wedding board “Something Blue,” and went haywire!¬†She was right though, there are¬†wayyyyyyyy to many options and make it more difficult to¬†make a decision without going back and forth.

#6 – Front and center – welcome the star of the show. Okay, again – weird does not necessarily mean bad. It’s just weird. Being a bride-to-be means that you best be ready to be “on” at all time my love. Bridal showers, bridal parties, question and answer sessions, etc. The show is on! And it’s all about you. That could be a good thing right? Yeah – true for some

#5 – That damn diet. Just live. Seriously – the weird part about being a bride-to-be is when you set this not-so-practical diet plan and can’t seem to stick to it. Be fit and workout to be healthy, it’s the best way.

#4 – I got this, I got this! No you don’t. Weird moment number four – realizing you need help. Took me a while. I figured – I can do this, and that when it came to the planning process. When actually I needed help – in my boo, my friends and my family. Thank God for them not letting up on my crazy butt!

#3 – Other people: the other bride. Okay – here we goooooooooo. Do not and I repeat¬† – do not compete with another bride-to-be. There is no competition. And no time will two people ever have the same vision for their special day – especially two women. So don’t keep up with another bride and her date and her dress and her menu choices. Have yours and move on. That part can get weird too, cause you want to know or maybe you need a few ideas.¬†Just don’t get caught up.

#2 – So, are you from Jamaica? Why Jamaica? Why so far? Whewww! Now this is not only weird for me. It’s aggravating. I chose to have a destination wedding and not everybody gets it. I get it: it’s far, everyone can’t come. But hey – I’m weird! My wedding. My choice. So there…..seriously – it took a while to get that confidence in my choice. But once I did – there was no stopping me and those that love me/us jumped right on board. Stick to your guns ladies….

#1 – Forgetting what’s really important: your groom-to-be. I’m a lucky lady and happy to have a groom-to-be who has been a part of the planning process from day one! Don’t let the weird bug hit you by forgetting about him too

Just know that some things are just weird – and that’s okay!

The Strength of a Black Man

16 Jul

***Post Trayvon Martin case – in encouragement for ALL of our black men***
The Strength of a Black Man
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Far too often, we forget to love you.
Far too often, we forget that you need love too.
Far too often, it slips our minds that you are doing the best you can.
Far too often, we disregard the strength of a black man.
A strength that can’t be matched.
Because you sir are one of a kind.
A strength that can’t be duplicated –
especially when you’re probably lucky to say you’ve made it.
 In a world where most of you are predicted to be in jail or in the grave by 25,
being a black man
takes the courage of a swarm of bees in a beehive…
Worker bees, working hard for their families.
¬†Going without –
so we can have food in our mouths.
Going without because you love your sons, daughters, mothers and fathers…
– brothers and sisters.
Going without because you can –
because you’ve had to all your life.
To make ends meet, you’ve paid the sacrifice.
You owe nobody anything anymore.
Get ready to step into greatness – open that door.
Far too often we forget that being a black man has its hurtful memories.
You’ve had to watch as the justice system takes your child away – makes you pay.
When you really want to stay.
You’ve had to sit back, helpless while you watched us hurt and abused.
You didn’t chose this life –
You’re entitled to¬†be happy¬†too.
Far too long has your life been planned and predicted by people who
don’t even see you.
We thank God that He has a far greater plan
for the pillar in you!
For the hero inside. He has a plan for you to continue to stay strong.
For your faith to be stronger than pride. To reflect on your past but move forward into greatness.
He has a plan for you to hold your head up high-
Sit with your back straight
-And look your destiny right in the eye.
For you to say what is on your mind –
¬†to speak with confidence and awareness of who you are…
…a king.
We recognize the King in you, Black Man.
 Even if the world does not.
To us, you are not a threat, but a blessing.
Keep praying
Keep being
And never,
No never
Let anyone steer you wrong or tell you who you are
When you know first hand
The Strength of a Black Man.
-Tracey K, Writer Р

Cheers to all things NEW!

21 Jun

Photo Group

Photography Class Group of Washington School of Photography. Photo by John Reef;

Yesterday was session 3 of my photography class. Although I wish I could say that I paid for this class myself (my “on-a-diet”¬†upcoming wedding pockets would have to plead otherwise), I didn’t;¬†I have a¬†great career and an amazing¬†supervisor who believes in me. I thank her for investing in¬†some photography classes, that I can use to capture candid moments of impactful¬†the work we do.

Personally, I’ve always loved taking pictures and always seem to be “that girl” of my family who gets all the great shots (especially of my nephew – he’s my muse).

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For me, it is just one of those things I like to do. I don’t think too hard about it.¬†Especially when it comes to capturing natural daily activities. Nothing too deep. Art represents life anyway, so to me, whatever needs to be said in a photo will be said on its own.

One thing we can all count on is that there is always room to grow, develop and share your experiences. So, cheers to NEW ventures to come – because you never know what God is preparing you for!

Share with us – what are you learning new in the next few months to help better yourself?

And when you can – invest in YOU or find someone who believes in you enough to do so. And be thankful for those people.

Until next time.

Peace and light,