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The Peace of Love – Capturing the Admiration

30 Jan

I was asked to commission a family portrait for Tatiana, who wanted something that represents her loving family. Tatiana has been a long time friend and I’ve always admired her bravery (moving miles away to another country), her intellect (she’s a true inspiration) and her nurturing nature with her kids – especially the way she pours knowledge and scholastic into them. She’s a dope writer and we share that trait along with a love of books. Here’s more on Tatiana’s story, why she chose to capture her family in illustration and tips she has on mothering and navigating the journey of life. 

 

Why did you want to get a commissioned piece of art and why did you choose the image/people to be drawn?

​I live in Germany, and while it’s a lovely place to raise a family​, when it comes to media representation of people who aren’t white, it lags FAR behind. I want my home to feel safe, like an oasis. One way I try to do that is through art. Having a portrait of my family means they will literally see themselves reflected in the media they consume.

 

What will this art piece mean for you/your family? How do you plan to use it? 

​I’ll display it in my home.​ And maybe I’ll order some Christmas cards!

What are three adjectives to describe you? 

​Artistic, lighthearted, adventurous​

 

What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life? And also as a mother? 

​In both life and motherhood, I’ve learned to be proactive about the things I can control and to ​not my stress level be determined by things I can’t control.

 If you had to give anyone advice about maneuvering through life, what would that advice be? Any advice for new/aspiring mothers? 

​My advice would be to have a plan, but be open to the surprises life gifts us. As for mothers: there is no one correct path to motherhood, and no one correct way to be a mother. Listen to other people’s advice, but trust in your ability to make good decisions.​
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What would you tell your 15-year-old self? 

​It’s ok to not fit in. You have plenty of time to find your right people.

What goals to you have planned this year? 

​My major goal is to finish the first draft of my novel and start submitting it to agents.​

 

Shoutout your social media, business goals, and any useful links that below. How can people connect with you?

​I’m on Instagram and Twitter @tatianarhanebutte, and my website is tatianarhanebutte.com. I’m launching a newsletter soon, so go sign up for it!

Love & Peace,

@traceyshine

Order your own custom print by visiting my Etsy store:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/LoveandPeaceSigns

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Ease on Down – your first outing alone with Baby

15 Jul

When you become a mother – you may feel:

  • Happy/Sad
  • Blessed/Overwhelmed
  • Helpless/Accomplished
  • Together/Alone
  • Complete/Empty

Did that rack your brain enough? If you’re not a mom yet – but you are waiting to become one, these are just a few of the ways you might feel once your baby gets here.

And it’s okay if every feeling you feel is not 110% positive. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t strive for perfection. I am learning this myself. My journey to motherhood was not the smoothest ride (more on this later). But it was however, something I wanted so badly and I am so grateful for now. But strangely enough when I had my daughter – just a few days later I felt overwhelmed with emotion due to a need to protect her.There was something about her “being out”that tore away at my heart. If you want to hear more about it those postpartum  woes and need advice, click here.

Even more exciting is what ‘s to come with that first outing with your little one. Your first outing with your child alone can look a number of ways. Mines was with our daughter’s first month doctor checkup.

I clutched my invisible pearls in anticipation (photo below) but it wasn’t half bad. me and baby - one month appt blog post

Let’s be clear, I tossed and turned a bit the night before our outing. It’s one thing to leave the house as just myself and it’s a breeze working with my husband to venture out – riding shotgun and checking baby’s leg temp, watching her breathing, etc.

But being behind the wheel with precious cargo caused me to have a heightened level of awareness. We successfully conquered though. If you’re going out with your little one here are some tricks that helped us:

  1. Get prepped the night before. Preparation is key, especially if you have a timed-specific event the two of you need to be at. After having your baby, you will have a few appointments – some for her, some for yourself…and while many offices allow a 15 minute or so grace period, you still want to prep to do your best to be on time. My parents used to catch a bunch of jokes when my brother and I were little about always being the “late ones to arrive” and they always replied with “we have kids idiot!” Well not quite in those terms. Getting out the house with children, let alone a newborn is quite an adventure, so get that diaper bag, her outfit, your clothes, the car seat and other materials (insurance cards, questions for your doctor, etc.) related to your outing if needed.
  2. Be real. Be flexible. And this is with EVERY SINGLE EVENT FROM HERE ON OUT. You may run late. You may get lost and make a wrong turn (Mommy brain). There may be some surprises – bumps in the road if you will. But keep your cool and carry on.
  3. Breathe. If you get panicky, a couple of deep breaths may help you ease through the anxiety. Breathe in for four breaths, breathe out for four more. Remember you need to keep a cool head because you are not just driving for yourself – you’ve got a precious gift in tow.
  4. Take your time. Don’t rush getting from place to place. Our balance can get shaken up when we try to race with time so takes yours as needed. The time will pass anyway, so as mentioned before – be flexible and do what you can to be “on time” but move at your own pace when in transition to the next phase of your outing.
  5. Manage baby’s feedings while out. Okay, this will be different for everyone, but you will need to take the proper amount of bottles and keep track of when baby needs to eat as it relates to where you’ll be. So if you know you have an appointment at 11am and your baby normally eats around that time, you may have to get creative and feed her at say, the nearest mall’s family breastfeeding room, or linger around the doctor’s appointment to feed her. This helped me a bunch, because it helped baby girl stay pretty calm while in the car. We had not one fussy moment from hunger. 🙂 Feeding before you leave helps too. But do what works for you.
  6. Keep someone posted. My point person was my husband – I let him know our ETA and arrival just so someone knew where we were. Although he wouldn’t have had it any other way. I also had my mom on alert as well.
  7. Live and learn. There will be many more outings with your mini-me so use this first one and the ones after to find your own routine and way that works for you and your family.

Safe travels to and fro’

Peace & blessings

-Tracey